My husband name is Kenechukwu. This names has two
meaning in Igbo language.
“Kenechukwu actually what it means?” I was asking him when
my first dating three years ago.
“Kenechukwu means ‘Thanks god’. My grandmother gave this
name to me when I was born.”
“Thanks god in Malay
language means ‘Terima kasih Tuhan.” I replied.
Then what surprise me he tried to say it and I was laughing when hearing the pronunciation of that word
come from his African tongue. He also laughed
went see I laughing too. This is a nice evening for our first time meeting at Central
Market, Kuala Lumpur.
After seven month this relationship began he propose me to
be his future wife.
“Why you choosing me
to be your wife, Kene? That is a first
question come thru my mind. He was explained the reason why he chosen me. The
key word is I was covered myself from top to down makes him falling in love
with me. He was said I “looked sexy”. I just smile.
So go back to this morning in part 2 (previous page) when he
told me about two girls, same like other story he told me when he went to his
friend house. One of African girl try to seducing him and tell her heart
already falling in love with him thru his friend who names Victor, that she
like my husband without she knows that he was married.
“I don’t want to wasting my time with any African girl here. I
am a married man. I had one wife.” I am
so proud to hear the words.
He told me that he don’t have interest with any African girl because many of them have a big bud and big
breast. His statement make me shocked
and want to laugh also. I have seen many African women here a few of
them don’t have a big bud but still have a big breast. What can I say many of
them have a nice and sexy looking too
with their curly hairs.
I also don’t see Malaysian man falling in love with African
women here unless many Malaysian women either Malay, Chinese and Indian will have a African boyfriend
or husband. According to my husband, I started thingking
maybe Malaysian man also don’t like African women because have a big bud and a
big breast. Who knows man heart what their think about women sex appearances...lollll.
My husband has told me before he came to Malaysia he has
many African girlfriend in Nigeria. One of his girlfriend he told me names is
Dianne. According to my husband story he wanted to marry this girl who studying
in same university but in a different faculty. Unlucky Dianne was died because
of car accident. After his girlfriend died he don’t have any closed girlfriend about six years until he make a new
relationship with one girl from Spain thru the internet.
But otherside story, one night I was answering his phone call when he went out to a shop buy a cigarette.
But otherside story, one night I was answering his phone call when he went out to a shop buy a cigarette.
“Hello, who is it?” I heard a women voice asking me. I told
her am his wife. Surpose I should asking who is she because she called my husband number.
“You call him back a few minutes more. He went to a shop.” I
try to explained to her then I cut the
called.
A few minutes later door was opened. I don’t tell my husband
that someone was calling him. For me it is not important to let him knows. Am
sure this women will call him back soon if she really want to speak to him.
Half minutes after the cell phone was ringing. My husband
answered that calls and sounds a little
arguing. I knew that girl call him back.
“Why you picked my call and don’t tell me?” he asking me
with rise up a voice.
“It doesn’t matter now she call you back, rite?”
“You ruin my business now!”
Woooow. I started suspicious when he looked mad.
“Did you not tell her the truth?”
“Is it important to tell everything in business?” he asking
me back.
“Of course you must tell the truth. Do you lie to her about
yourself?”
“Am not lies to her. She is not my concern!”
Now I knew this girl kept her heart to my husband. It is true what my husband said,” business is
business” no need to add it with love or any purpose. From that night these girls start crazy disturbing
my husband with her calls many times day and night.
Talking about her feeling to my husband! She was threatening my husband to revoke
what they dealing in business.
“I don’t care what she felt to me. I can’t love her. I don’t
know her well just on call and online chatting talking about business not about
heart.”
I think this is what happen one of his new girlfriend from Spain
before he make a decision fly to
Malaysia. Her names was Nuria
Gonzalez. What makes my husband fly to Malaysia because want to continue his
study in this country and looking at opportunities
to do a business also.
“After I came Malaysia, I change my intention. I think deeply I can’t marry Nuria. The reason
because I only knows her online see her picture,sending email and talking ona phone only. But we don’t ever have body
contact to know deeply each other see her face to face.” That what he explained to me
when our first dating.
Back to a girl who called my husband that night. This women from
London. She worked as designer. She had a business and have interest to invest business with my husband
here in Malaysia. My husband knows her from his Nigerian friend names Jeff Barrat
who stay in London .
“Do you tell her you love her?” Just throw the question when he in front of his laptop
one night.
“No. I never give her hope or promise to marry her.”
Many report in newspaper in Malaysia shown African people have a talented to sulking
women by their ‘power of love words’ makes women can falling in love. I think
its thru from my own experience went I
have new relationship with my husband.
He had very good English speaking and writing, The word and
sentences he using in sms and email to me makes me feel cool. Also the way he
talked to me so polite,respect in conversations of skills. I think this is their nature of
African people by the custom guide.
It doesn’t mean Asian people especially like Malaysian man don’t
have a talent to tackle women heart. What I want to say it like a Malay verbs: “Jangan
kerana nila setitik rosak susu sebelanga.” It means we cant blame all African
people come to this country have a bad intention to do bad thing to our citizen
women here.
“I think maybe she falling in love with you from your magic
words from writing and talking to her this while makes melting her heart to
you.” I try to digging the answered.
“Maybe. I don’t care if she don’t want to dealing any
business. I can’t love her because of
this business.”
But in other way, I try to dig my husband feeling about her.
“Honey…many man though he was married still have a women
like to keep a mistress.”
“It is not good while you have a wife but still keep another
women. Better don’t married.” He really stressed on it.
“But in Islam as example can allowed man to marry four
times.” I just want to know what in his mind about polygamy.
“Our Igbo custom can’t allow to marry two wife. My dad only
married one wife without mistress.”
“Muslim husband can marry a second wife if have a big reason
to do that. Not simply married because of a lust.” I try to explain.
“If I marry two wife it means my parent and sibling really don’t
like. Do you like me to marry other women?” Suddenly he throws this killing question to me.
Very quickly my answered is,” No
and I don’t ever give you permission to marry again. I will kill you!” I just throw
a kidding word to him. In deep from my heart an not
allowed my husband accept a polygamy in his life. We are laughing with this conversation
about Chaterine a women from London,
Dianne and Nuria Gonzalez from Spain who
is falling in love with my husband before I meet him.
TO BE CONTINUE…
