Through D Eyes Story 3: A GIRLFRIENDS

My husband name is Kenechukwu. This  names  has  two meaning in Igbo language.

“Kenechukwu actually what it means?” I was asking him when my first dating  three years ago.

“Kenechukwu means ‘Thanks god’. My grandmother gave this name to me when I was born.”

“Thanks  god in Malay language means ‘Terima kasih Tuhan.” I replied.

Then what surprise me he tried to say it and I was   laughing  when hearing the pronunciation of that word come from his African  tongue. He also laughed went see I laughing too. This is a nice evening for our first time meeting at Central Market, Kuala Lumpur.

After seven month this relationship began he propose me to be his future wife.

“Why  you choosing me to be your wife, Kene? That is  a first question come thru my mind. He was explained the reason why he chosen me. The key word  is I  was covered myself  from top to down makes him falling in love with me. He was said I “looked sexy”. I just smile.

So go back to this morning in part 2 (previous page) when he told me about two girls, same like other story he told me when he went to his friend house. One of African girl try to seducing him and tell her heart already falling in love with him thru his friend who names Victor, that she like my husband without she knows that he was married.

“I don’t want to  wasting my time with any African girl here. I am  a married man. I had one wife.” I am so proud to hear the words.

He told me that he don’t  have interest with any African girl  because many of them have a big bud and big breast. His statement  make me shocked and want to  laugh also.  I have seen many African women here a few of them don’t have a big bud but still have a big breast. What can I say many of them have a nice  and sexy looking too with their curly hairs.

I also don’t see Malaysian man falling in love with African women here unless many Malaysian women either  Malay, Chinese and Indian will have a African boyfriend or husband. According to my husband, I started   thingking maybe Malaysian man also don’t like African women because have a big bud and a big breast. Who knows man heart what their think about women sex appearances...lollll.

My husband has told me before he came to Malaysia he has many African girlfriend in Nigeria. One of his girlfriend he told me names is Dianne. According to my husband story he wanted to marry this girl who studying in same university but in a different faculty. Unlucky Dianne was died because of car accident. After his girlfriend died he don’t  have any closed  girlfriend about six years until he make a new relationship with one girl from Spain thru the  internet.
But otherside story, one night I was answering his phone call when he went out to a shop buy a cigarette.

“Hello, who is it?” I heard a women voice asking me. I told her am his wife. Surpose I should asking who is she  because she called my husband number.

“You call him back a few minutes more. He went to a shop.” I try to explained  to her then I cut the called.

A few minutes later door was opened. I don’t tell my husband that someone was calling him. For me it is not important to let him knows. Am sure this women will call him back soon if she really want to speak to him.

Half minutes after the cell phone was ringing. My husband answered that calls and sounds  a little arguing. I knew that girl call him back.

“Why you picked my call and don’t tell me?” he asking me with rise up a voice.

“It doesn’t matter now she call you back, rite?”

“You ruin my business now!”

Woooow. I started suspicious when he looked mad.

“Did you not tell her the truth?”

“Is it important to tell everything in business?” he asking me back.

“Of course you must tell the truth. Do you lie to her about yourself?”

“Am not lies to her. She is not my concern!”

Now I knew this girl kept her heart to my husband. It is  true what my husband said,” business is business” no need to add it with love or any purpose.  From that night these girls start  crazy  disturbing my husband with her calls many times day and   night. Talking about her feeling to my husband! She was threatening my husband to revoke   what they dealing in business.

“I don’t care what she felt to me. I can’t love her. I don’t know her well just on call and online chatting talking about business not about heart.”

I think this is what happen one of his new girlfriend from Spain before he make a  decision   fly to Malaysia. Her names  was   Nuria Gonzalez. What makes my husband fly to Malaysia because want to continue his study in this country and looking  at opportunities to do a  business  also.

“After I came Malaysia, I change  my intention.  I think deeply I can’t marry Nuria. The reason because I only knows her online see her picture,sending email and talking ona  phone only. But we don’t ever have body contact to know deeply each other see her  face to face.” That what he explained to me when our first dating.

Back to a girl who called my husband that night. This   women   from London. She worked as designer. She had a business and have  interest to invest business with my husband here in Malaysia. My husband knows her from his Nigerian friend names Jeff Barrat   who stay in London .

“Do you tell her you love her?” Just throw  the question when he in front of his laptop one night.

“No. I never give her hope or promise to marry her.”

Many report in newspaper in Malaysia shown  African people have a talented to sulking women by their ‘power of love words’ makes women can falling in love. I think its thru from my own experience went  I have new relationship with my husband.

He had very good English speaking and writing, The word and sentences he using in sms and email to me makes me feel cool. Also the way he talked to me so polite,respect in conversations of  skills. I think this is their nature of African people by the custom guide.

It doesn’t mean Asian people especially like Malaysian man don’t have a talent to tackle women heart. What I want to say it like a Malay verbs: “Jangan kerana nila setitik rosak susu sebelanga.” It means we cant blame all African people come to this country have a bad intention to do bad thing to our citizen women here.

“I think maybe she falling in love with you from your magic words from writing and talking to her this while makes melting her heart to you.” I try to digging the answered.

“Maybe. I don’t care if she don’t want to dealing any business. I can’t  love her because of this business.”

But in other way, I try to dig my husband feeling about her.

“Honey…many man though he was married still have a women like to keep a mistress.”

“It is not good while you have a wife but still keep another women. Better don’t married.” He really stressed  on it.

“But in Islam as example can allowed man to marry four times.” I just want to know what in his mind about polygamy.

“Our Igbo custom can’t allow to marry two wife. My dad only married  one wife without mistress.”

“Muslim husband can marry a second wife if have a big reason to do that. Not simply married because of a lust.” I try to explain.

“If I marry two wife it means my parent and sibling really don’t like. Do you like me to marry other women?” Suddenly he throws  this killing question to me.

Very quickly  my  answered   is,” No and I don’t ever give you permission to marry again. I will kill you!” I just throw a kidding   word to him. In deep from my heart an not allowed my husband accept a polygamy in his life. We are laughing with this conversation  about Chaterine a women from London, Dianne and Nuria Gonzalez from Spain  who is falling in love with my husband before I meet him.

TO BE CONTINUE…

Through D Eyes Story 2: PREPARED BREAKFAST

I was sat beside him while waiting him finished his dinner. He don’t like I leave him alone while he was eating though I don’t eat.  I like to see my husband eat what I cooked for him. He always said my food is not bad.  Am really felt full of appreciation from him.

After he finished a dinner as usual he continues sat in front of his laptop. I never was disturbing him. Before I go to a bed I will make sure kitchen must be cleaned. Suddenly I heard snoring comes from room. He is falling asleep so early tonight? Now this is a time I can continue write a note in my new iPad.

What should I write? Work?  Personal? I never write my past personal life either in a piece of paper or dairy. Now I had a new iPad so it is easy to write anything because of advanced  technology now day. I feel want to write something about myself, husband and my second marriage.

I started to move my fingers to find a ‘Notes’ in iPad and started to write what happen tonight with my husband, new frying pan and new   iPad.

Time now is past two o’clock in a morning. My eyes still not feeling asleep because of a new iPad. I have told myself I still have a time tomorrow because of weekend and public holiday for  Christmas Celebrations. I can spend more time with my new iPad.

In a dark night, my husband started snoring maybe he so tired along day working and tonight whether is cold after raining a day. I heard his soft snoring my ears feel good sound and makes me feel asleep too. I put aside my iPad and lay beside him on bed.

Sunrise up! I heard a big voice in Igbo language talking with someone on phone. It is really disturbing my dreams that I not remember to write it here. Am rushing wokeup because I knew he will going out as usual. I should prepare breakfast but I have no idea what to cook this morning.

“Honey, what do you want to eat?” I asking him.

“Anything. I want to go out see my friend today.”

“What time?”

“Around eleven thirty.”

I rushing stood up from bed and find my wrist watch. I only have an hour to prepare him breakfast. I never missed to prepared breakfast   every day   when we together going out every morning. I always  late arrive office because preparing breakfast as my routine.

Today is Saturday, am off from worked. What should I cook? I have no idea. Then I see the ripe banana left a few pieces. Now I got an idea to make `cekodok  pisang’ is similar like ‘Akara’  in Igbo language as a Nigerian dish. It means something mixed it with a flour, salt, sugar and fried it. Delicious eat when it is hot. Even it is not exactly Nigerian food but Cekoduk seems like Akara too.

“Honey I will make you a cekodok”

“I don’t want cekodok today. No need to take breakfast because I don’t have enough time. I want to prepared myself to go out.”

“But still have a time.” I try to hold him. Then I rushed washed my face without taking a bath do a breakfast faster as I can to make sure he can take his breakfast at home.

While he ironing his own shirt and take his bath, I already bake my cekodok flour and fried it with my new frying pan. Then I boiled a  water while a cekodok fried in heat oil and a few minutes drink is ready. He like a bread then Malay dish, so I make two set of bread   added with margarine already prepare for him. That’s my talent in a kitchen very fast to preparing a food.

This morning he had breakfast with cekodok and bread.

“It is  soft  your  cekodok  this morning. Is it less flour?” he complains.

“Yeah sometimes, but still good test rite?.” His agreed and shaking his head. Am smile in heart.

While he want to going out I asked him to buy me a women pad at a shop.

“How much it cost?”

“It is not costly not less five ringgit.” He touched   his pocket pans searching his wallet then take door key and going out.

A few minutes later a door   was opened. He took off his shoes   and   shown   me label of  Kotexs  pad to make sure it is a correct this as I ordered.

“Went I want to buy this pad a two women looking at me like a shocked.”

“Why?” I  was asking him.

“Maybe they think I was not married. Looking at me up and down because I bought a women pad early morning.” He was laughing.

That’s my husband. For me he looked handsome even have a black skin with short curly hairs because he is an African man. He is six feet tall. Have a soft spoken and looked cool and wise man. Everybody in this community apartment ten floors really likes him. He is only African man who stayed in Muslim community here and married with a  Malay women.

TO BE  CONTINUE…

Through D Eyes Story 1: FRYING PAN

My hubby bought me a new frying pan last night after  I  was crying because cannot cooked. I lost a pan when i put at the back kitchen to dry it after finished cooked. Sometimes we always arguing a small thing in life but at the end we get the final decision.

Like tonight, he bought me a new frying pan at IOI Mall. He drove a car alone after meet him friends just want to buy a frying pan for me with him patience before the Mall was closed.

Am   so appreciate it when receiving him call suddenly.

 "Honey, I already bought you a new  frying   pan soon I reach home and please cook Maggi mee  tonight  am  hungry now."

I felt sympathy of him because   try to fulfill my needs even he don’t have much money. But he still thinking my pan is more important than his stomach! Even though i actually can cook use a pot as alternative way to cook! But I don’t like because the mee will stick at  bottom of pot and difficult to washed it out.

When he reached home am still with my new  iPad in a room and ignored him. With my side seeing he put a new pan on floor with bunch of shirt that he took from laundry shop.

"Honey when you want to cook? I bought you a new frying pan now but u still working with your iPad.Other  people also have an iPod but still can cook," he is nagging.

My husband really hungry now! So I put aside my   iPad and took a new frying pan he bought and go to a kitchen. In a short time food is ready to serve while he in front of his laptop. Now my turn to call him many times  after  prepared the food. That is it! Sounds   like hungry much but his laptop make him delayed to eat.

"Fasterlah... don’t let the Maggi mee I cooked is cold," I try to force him.

"Waitlah....food still hot," he answered me with his slangar followed Malaysian English speaking.

My husband like to eat something hot so do I.

"You don’t eat?" he asking me.

"I had my dinner."

"How do you cook without a frying pan?" he asking me while he mouth full bunch of Maggie mee.

"I can’t eat Maggie mee anymore so I eat chicken curry that I kept it last four days in freeze. I heat it on pot and cook a   rice. Am full now." he just listening my explanation about our different  throat tonight.

TO BE CONTINUING…

Buah Ajaib dari Afrika

 Nama Tempatan: Pokok ajaibNama Saintifik: Synsepalum dulcificumNama Lain: Miraculous berry, buah ajaib,pokok ajaib, miracle fruit,miracle berry,magic berryFamili: SapotaceaeLokasi dijumpai: Tumbuhan di Nurseri MelurAsal: Afrika BaratKeterangan:Pokok ajaib merupakan sejenis pokok yang unik.Bersesuaian dengan namanya buah yang berbentuk beri ini akan memberikan kesan peneutralan ke atas sebarang asid.Walaupun buah ini sebenarnya hanya tawar, Ia menyebabkan setiap benda yang dimakan selepas itu akan berasa manis.Ini adalah disebabkan oleh sejenis protein yang dipanggil miraculin.Kesan ini akan dirasai antara satu hingga dua jam selepas makan buah tersebut.Buahnya sedang dikenal pasti sebagai antara sumber yang memberikan rasa manis semulajadi.Ia berasal dari afrika barat di kawasan yang beriklim tropika.Di afrika ia kadangkala digunakan untuk membaiki rasa makanan yang telah rosak atau basi.Tumbuhan dari keluarga Sapotaceae ini boleh ditanam didalam pasu yang besar. Ia adalah tumbuhan renek yang boleh mencapai ketinggian sehingga 18 kaki jika hidup di habitat yang menyerupai habitat asalnya. Kebiasaannya ia boleh tumbuh sehingga 5 hingga 6 kaki. Ia menghasilkan buah sepanjang tahun.Ia akan menghasilkan buah selepas lebih kurang 4 tahun ditanam.Bunganya kecil berwarna putih. buahnya yang berbentuk beri berwarna hijau ketika mudah dan akan berubah menjadi merah terang apabila masak.Setiap buah mempunyai satu biji. Lapisan yang menyaluti biji ini walaupun tidak mempunyai rasa manis, tetapi akan menghilangkan semua rasa masam pada benda yang dimakan dan menggantikannya dengan rasa manis.Kesan ini akan dirasakan selama sejam atau lebih.Untuk menanam pokok ini tanah yang agak berasid diperlukan.Ia dapat hidup sempurna pada tanah yang mempunyai pH antara pH 4.5 hingga 5.8. Ia akan mati jika diberikan air yang terlalu banyak namun tetap memerlukan air yang mencukupi.Kegunaan:Dalam perubatan buah ini digunakan untuk merawat demam, kencing manis, malaria, buasir dan batuk. Kandungan gula semulajadi yang dihasilkan oleh buahnya juga amat berguna untuk membantu pesakit kencing manis.

Lelaki Afrika Tidak Suka ke Tandas

Ini tabiat buruk kebanyakan lelaki Afrika. Mereka suka kencing di merata tempat. Sama ada di belakang kedai, di celah pokok dan di kawasan terlindung.
 Saya sentiasa memikirkan tabiat mereka. Adakah mereka tidak diajar sivik ketika zaman kanak-kanak? Berbanding rakyat Malaysiayang mana  tahap kesedaran sivik tinggi,walaupun berbilang kaum, tandas adalah keperluan jika ingin membuang air kecil.
Tidak mudah untuk kita kencing berdiri di tempat terbuka sekalipun ketika itu kita berada di sebuah kedai  yang pastinya memang disediakan tandas dan kita akan bertindak untuk   memasuki tandas jika ingin membuang air kecil.
 Tetapi ini tidak berlaku di kalangan warga Afrika terutama lelaki. Mereka akan kelihatan keluar dari restoran dan kencing di merata-rata tempat yang difikirkan terlindung berbanding ke tandas yang sudah tersedia di dalam restoran.
 Dalam satu kejadian, ketika menunggu suami di sebuah restoran yang dikunjungi ramai warga Afrika di Puchong, saya meletakkan kereta di kawasan yang agak gelap dan di bawah pohon yang rimbun. Saya mematikan enjin kereta dan membuka cermin untuk mendapatkan udara segar di waktu malam, malangnya udara di keliling kereta saya ini berbau hancing. Dalam masa yang sama saya melihat seorang lelaki Afrika menghampiri kereta saya dan dia terus kencing di tayar belakang kereta saya tanpa dia menyedari saya berada di dalam kereta.
Bayangkan perasaan saya ketika itu menjadi marah lalu saya membunyikan hon sekuat-kuatnya beberapa kali.Lelaki Afrika ini terperanjat dan memohon maaf kerana kencing di tayar kereta saya. Padahal dia keluar dari sebuah restoran berhampiran. Adakah restoran itu tiada tandas? Mustahil!
Kawasan letak kereta di situ, adalah tempat mereka selalu kencing kerana adanya pokok yang rendang dan dekat dengan longkang di situ. Sejak hari itu saya tidak lagi meletakkan kereta di bawah pokok rendang itu kerana sudah tahu tandas segera mereka di situ.

LifeStyle2: Tengkolok wanita Afrika

Yoruba adalah salah satu kumpulan etno-linguistik atau etnik yang terbesar di Afrika Barat. Majoriti daripada etnik Yoruba bercakap dalam bahasa Yoruba.  Populasi etnik Yuroba adalah 21 peratus daripada jumlah penduduk Nigeria , iaitu  anggaran  30 juta orang  di seluruh Afrika Barat.

(Gambar) Pakaian tradisional wanita Yoruba terdiri daripada empat bahagian: Buba (blaus seperti baju), Iro (bungkus skirt), gele (ikatan di kepala / bungkus), dan ipele atau iborun (selendang menghiasi bahu). saya tertarik dengan  GELE yang mana tekstil yang digunakan seperti jenis organza, kain taf, dan tali. Setiap Gele yang digayakansekurang-kurangnya mempunyai ciri-ciri sengit,berlilit dan berlipat  setiap kali digayakan oleh wanita Yaruba. Gele akan dibalut di sekeliling kepala tetapi tidak seperti kebanyakan balutan kepala, gele dimanipulasikan untuk berdiri jauh dari kepala, mewujudkan satu bentuk menegak atau melintang yang besar dengan cara ikatan dan bentuk lipatan gele yang pelbagai mengikut kreativiti.

Setiap gele yang digayakan adalah simbol kekayaan dan status ekonomi si pemakainya. Ia boleh dikenalpasti melalui saiz dan fabrik gele yang digayakan oleh  seorang wanita. Seorang wanita yang mengayakan gele boleh menonjolkan diri mereka dilihat dari jauh kerana saiz gele dan kreativiti yang digubah di atas kepalanya itu.
 Di Malaysia istilah lain yang mungkin sesuai untuk kita sebut  Gele seakan sama cara lipatannya bagi membuat tengkolok cuma ia kelihatan lebih besar dengan permulaan kain yang panjang.
 Wanita yang bertubuh langsing  dan tinggi, lebih berbangga dan bersedia untuk mengayakan gele kerana memudahkan pergerakan mereka di khalayak. saya pernah berdiri disebelah wanita yang memakai Gele, pernah tercucuk mata kerana  tengkoloknya begitu besar dan berlekuk-lekuk runcing, ketika bergambar saya terpaksa berhati-hati dibimbangi terselindung  ketika merakamkan foto kerana saya lebih tinggi daripada wanita  yang mengayakannya pada satu majlis makan malam.

Di kalangan  rakyat Malaysia yang ingin mencuba mengayakan Gele dan mendapatkan material Gele terdapat laman web yang menjual secara online dan memaparkan teknik mengikat Gele. Untuk gaya yang simple ia boleh dilakukan sendiri tetapi untuk stail yang lebih dramatik memerlukan orang lain melakukannya. 

EVENT1: Its Time for Africa

KUALA LUMPUR: In observance of the 49th anniversary of Africa Day, held a press conference in conjunction with several Ambassadors from eight African nations in honor of the African holiday which celebrates the formation of the Organization of African Unity (OAU) in 1963 following the coalescing of independent African countries with the purpose of moving the entire continent toward independence.

This year's Africa Day events will focus around the theme, "Boosting Intra-Africa Trade", and will take place in major cities around the world with significant African populations including  Malaysia.

The continent marks on 25 May 2012 the 49th anniversary of Africa Day and the 10-year existence of the OAU.

 On 25 May 1963, 31 African leaders convened a summit meeting to find the Organisation of African Unity (OAU) and they renamed Africa Freedom Day to "African Liberation Day".

 Political instability, poverty and a lack of development are but a few challenges still facing the African continent.

 As Africans and people of African origin celebrate Africa Liberation Day or Africa Day as it is commonly known, on Friday 25 May, these issues are taking centre stage.

 Almost half a century after the African Liberation Day was first celebrated; many Africans are still not at peace in their own countries.

 The Global Diaspora Summit comes at a time when many unanswered questions about the economic challenges facing the continent continue to haunt African leaders.

 The exodus of African citizens to other countries in search of a better life is but one of the challenges facing Africa.

 The significance of the Day was to reflect the aspirations of people to break free from the chains of colonial bondage by dint of a collective will and it was also meant to help raise political awareness around the world about the state of affairs in Africa and the self-determination of its people.

 The main economic region of the continent is the Southern Africa Development Community (SADC), comprised by 14 countries namely  Nigeria, Angola, South Africa, Botswana, DR Congo, Lesotho, Madagascar, Malawi, Mauritius, Mozambique, Namibia, Swaziland, Tanzania, Zambia and Zimbabwe.
Thanks to Nigerian Emmbassy Malaysia for invited us in this occassions on 25th May 2012 held at Intercontinental Hotel, Jalan Ampang, Kuala Lumpur.